My father is a traditional man. He believes in phone calls and reading the newspaper. He thinks a man should come to the door if he is picking me up and should also initiate the handshake upon meeting my father. During my adolescence, I found this demand absurd and embarrassing but now as I’m nearing the end of my teenage years I can’t help but wonder, is this really too much to ask for?
I dated a boy last year whom I met online. He had hazel eyes and a great smile. He was a singer in a band, played lacrosse, and worked at Ralph Lauren. I knew all of this before ever having a conversation with him. After a week or so of the common practice referred to as stalking, I finally worked up enough courage to send him a message. He quickly responded and after a while of fluid conversation, we exchanged numbers. I texted him and he texted me back and so this relationship of ours went on like this for about a month until I finally texted him inquiring about the sound of his voice.
We sent each other goodnight texts, good morning texts, flirty texts, get-to-know-you-better question texts, and for all I knew he could have had the voice of Kermit the Frog. It took me a month to realize this because up until then, all the steps we had taken were 100 percent acceptable. I never expected him to call me. In fact, the idea put my stomach into knots as I’m sure it did his.
Had I told my dad I met a guy online, he would have relentlessly mocked “kids these days” for our inability to talk to each other anymore. Truthfully, we, the kids, unfortunately succumb to the easiness of conversing from behind a screen.
Online dating is a concept foreign to so many people of his generation and honestly, as I head into my twenties, I’m beginning to warm up to his traditional ideas. To accept a boy text the word “here” to let you know he’s at your house is nothing but settling. Is he too lazy to come to the door? Is it too inconvenient for him? Is he too scared to meet the parents? If the answer is yes to any of these, then ask yourself this: do you really want to date a guy who is lazy and not willing to put in a little extra effort for you? Please ladies, if chivalry is dead, it is nothing but our fault.
Luckily this boy from online did not sound like Kermit the Frog but let that be a lesson to you all. Technology may have hindered the way we interact but romance is still out there. Social media should be used as a catalyst to meet people in person, not a substitute.
My father is a shy man of few words but twenty-six years ago, he had both the courage to call my mom on the house phone and ask her on a date. Sure his options were much more limited than they are for today’s men but no, I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a man to call me on my cell phone no less, and ask to take me out on a date.